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Carol Duncan

Carol Ann Duncan (Hoffman)

Wednesday, October 29th, 1941 - Tuesday, June 23rd, 2020
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Obituary

Carol Ann Hoffman Duncan, 78, of Ocean, NJ passed away Tuesday, June 23, 2020 at her home surrounded by her devoted family.
Born in Savanna, IL, Carol Ann grew up in Apple River, IL where she attended Warren High School. She participated in singing competition and marching band. She moved to Indianapolis, IN to attend House of James Beauty School, and there met and married her beloved husband. She resided in Indiana for many years, first in Indianapolis then Charlottesville and New Palestine before moving to Ocean, NJ 4 years ago to be closer to her son.
Carol Ann was the owner and operator of Clip & Curl Beauty Shop in Indianapolis and cut and styled hair for most of her life. She loved singing, reading, cooking, gardening, sewing, fishing, and doing puzzles. She loved playing Words with Friends and Farmtown. She was always up for a game of checkers, and could only be beat by her younger brother Lyle. She had many hobbies including beading bracelets and necklaces, card design and bee keeping. She loved animals. Over the years, she kept and raised dogs, cats, horses, cows, ducks, chickens, rabbits and turkeys. She played the piano, organ, accordion and french horn. She loved to travel and in the course of her life visited the 48 continental states and 10 countries.
She loved the Lord and was a source of comfort and spiritual guidance to everyone. She was a member of the Franklin Road Baptist Church in Indianapolis where she sang in the choir, and taught Sunday and vacation bible school.
Carol Ann loved her family and family was what mattered most to her. She was predeceased by her parents Paul H. and Christine M. (nee Robinson) Hoffman. Surviving is her devoted husband of 59 years Jerry E. Duncan, her loving son David B. Duncan MD of Asbury Park and his partner Alessandro Motter, her 3 brothers Gary Hoffman of Monroe, WI, Terry Hoffman of Maple Grove, MN, Lyle Hoffman of LaSalle, CO, and her 2 sisters Sharon Fontenot of Spring, TX, and Mae Olson of Chaska, MN.
Private funeral services were held under the direction of the O’Brien Funeral Home, Wall, NJ.
To offer condolences to the family please visit www.obrienfuneralhome.com In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Alzheimer’s Association of NJ. https://www.alz.org/nj
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David Duncan

Posted at 10:46pm
A letter that pretty much sums up my mom.

Subject: The Good Lord is looking out for you!! He sent a good rain storm!! testing it for you!!

Did the rain come in from the roof? Or ????? That is about the condition
your Mt Kisco home was in when I walked in to your house, and all the tarps
and water, You and all your belongings back in the corner bedroom, they made
it as uncomfortable as they could for you. I saw the contractor in the
kitchen. I was dum founded . I didn't even wait till your dad came in. I
still remember, asking what was going on? I told him that I was around these
kind of projects all my life and I had never seen such a mess like this in all
my life. It would have given my dad a heart attack. I told him that dad
always cleaned up as he worked. He was Working in the kitchen, It raining and
water running down the stairs. - Still see Dad's face when he walked in. What
is David going to do with this mess. He said I feel so sorry for him. It was
a real learning experience. I still can't can't believe what we saw.
If you still want the place ,I would think you need to have them deduct the
monies that it will cost to get things done right, Where are you? I tried to
call you several times, I have been uneasy all day and praying that if there
is something wrong you would find it before you got everything tied up. I have
been walking the floor. I just new that something wasn't right. When I get
that feeling I start praying. There are other ways in which this has been a
good day. You can see that your inspector is right o target!!
And what needs to be taken care of, and who can say there are no problems
now? Dad just came in and I told him. He got real quiet, and then
after a bit came back and said God is answering are prayers. He is
protecting David. I told him I just told you that. He is in the shower now.
Just finished mowing.

If you need any help let us know--if there is something we can do. We shall
keep this situation covered in prayer. This would make a good spiritual movie.
or book. Maybe I will take up writing a book! Think of a good name. I see
this coming out --YOU SMELLING LIKE A ROSE! Might take a few extra months than
you thought!!

Bless your heart! Here is hugs and Kiss's from mom!! and DAD!! "
XXXX&00000000's" for you both!!

Love you--MOM and Dad

She wrote it to me after I was facing a home renovation nightmare in which a major rain storm revealed the shoddy workmanship of a contractor I had hired. There wasn’t an job or school interview, school test, surgery or life event that she wasn’t praying for my well being and looking out for me. She loved me unconditionally. My world will never be the same and the whole that has been left by her departing can never be filled. I miss you Mom but I know you are in a better place. Love David.

Paul Fontenot

Posted at 03:54pm
Aunt Carol was always in my life despite the distance I lived from her. Mom was always on the phone with Aunt Carol and was always the person I could expect to know what was going on in my life even if I hadn't directly spoken to her. I remember vividly when we told mom and dad about being pregnant with Lucas. We had only just found out and were too excited to not share with mom and dad. Mom was so excited and screamed and hugged us. But then I told her that we didn't want to tell anybody else yet. Her face got a bit more serious, and asked me in a very serious voice "Can I please tell Carol? I don't know how I'm going to be able to not say anything about it to her." It makes me sad knowing that you will not be there for my mom to talk to on the phone, but I know your conversations won't stop just because you can't have them over Facetime or in person.

One other very distinct memory I have was when Aunt Carol came to visit us in Spring. I was probably 11 or 12 years old (I can't remember exactly). Mom and Aunt Carol had worked on dinner for all of us, including fresh-baked bread. Aunt Carol set the table including a butter dish and knife. I picked up the knife first, buttered my roll, licked the excess butter off (without thinking, I hope), and set it back down. Aunt Carol very quietly picked it up, walked it to the kitchen, and set a fresh knife down. On my second roll I did the same thing, and so did Aunt Carol. On my third roll (they were good) mom saw me do it and said "Have you been doing that the whole time?" Aunt Carol was right next to mom and said "Don't worry, I've got it taken care of." It is such an oddly specific memory, but I just always remembered how kind she was at that moment, not wanting me to be embarrassed about the mistake I made.

I'm so glad that Lucas and Ellie got to meet their Great Aunt Carol. She and Uncle Jerry showed them a wonderful time walking the pier in New Jersey when we saw them in 2016. She even bought them each a sweatshirt that they still have today (it was very windy that day, and the only size the gift shop had was youth small). I wish they could have gotten to be around Aunt Carol more, but I know that they will have Grammy around to tell them about how great of an aunt she was for me and how she will be watching over them as they grow up.

I miss you very much, but I know you will be watching over all of us from heaven. We love you!
CD

Carol and Amos Duncan

Posted at 01:19pm
I have so many warm memories of Carol Ann. First of all, our shared name - but my Ann was spelled Anne.

I first met Carol in 1971 when our families played music together. She loved to sing; she loved music! I can still picture her playing an accordion she had picked up somewhere.

Carol's love of the Lord was palpable. She was always ready to share her love and to pray with anyone who needed it. Carol was a very spiritual soul.

Carol loved her Jerry! He was her guy, make no mistake about it. She delighted in cutting and fixing his hair just so. He probably never went to a barber after he married her.

Carol's great joy was her precious son David. She was so proud of his many achievements. She would send clippings of any award or recognition David received.

Amos and I both send our condolences to Jerry, David, Allessandro and all the Hoffman Family. We will miss Carol Ann.
M

Mae

Posted at 10:16pm
My first memory of my sister Carol was when we went to visit her, Jerry and David in Indianapolis. Carol was out of the house by the time I was born. David made me an aunt when I was 3 years old. Going to 'Carol's' was a lot of fun. She would take us shopping to a mall. We didn't go to just one store, we went into every one of them! She could definitely shop until I dropped!!
Whenever Carol came home or we went there, it meant haircuts... Now I would tell carol exactly how I wanted it. She would be way-laying on my hair... I would just close my eyes and hope for the best. One time while she was cutting she said 'I just love to cut hair!" My hair always turned out good not, quite what I asked for, but good.
Carol prayed me thru my 'wild oats' days when I was a teenager. Then when I became a Christian she was so happy. I could always call Carol about stuff. She would give me advice.
Carol and I like to sing. We did that a lot together. When John and I went to New Jersey last June, one of the last things we did before I left was sing a hymn together.
She was very special to me. She was a good big sister.

Sharon Fontenot

Posted at 07:00am
Even though Carol was 16 years older than me, we were true sisters. She left home when I was 2. When she would come home, I would wait at the window, watching for her car. I think everyone would agree, that when she walked into the house, there was a certain excitement - anticipation - that there was going to be fun. Where ever Carol was, that is where the fun was.

In the 70's, I was at college. I wrote long letters to Carol. I told her everything that was happening. She sent back with advice and encouragement.

In the 80's the phone calls started. Hours and hours on the phone. We hashed EVERYTHING out: fashion, gossip, cooking, politics, gossip, religion, kids, gossip, crafts, marriage, bargain shopping - on and on. Huey once told me that I had negated the bargain I got on a new dress by calling Carol to tell her about it.

Carol loved to take care of people. If there was a problem, she had a remedy and a prayer. Like the time I had bought a bag of marbles.. When I was ready to use them they were nowhere to be found. Brad swears he put them on my craft table as we unpacked after shopping. Christy, home for the holidays, and I turned my craft room and a few other places in my home upside down looking for the marbles. During the search Carol called, “Whatcha doin’?” So I put the phone on speaker and began telling her my woes of not being able to find my bag of marbles. After several suggestions of where to look, she said, “You know what I do when this happens? I pray about it.” . . . and so she began . . . “Sharon has lost her marbles” . . . “Help Sharon find her marbles” and numerous other such phrases. Christy started to lose it. Soon she was on the floor rolling with laughter. I turned the phone on mute so my sister wouldn’t hear. Then I too got tickled and started giggling. When my sister finished the prayer, I once again clicked the mute button. Christy and I were breathless as we completed the conversation with Carol. Did we tell my sister that we were in hysterics while she prayed – absolutely!

I know Jerry will also remember the Christmas in the mid 90's they came to Houston. Huey's parents were there too. Best Christmas ever! We all laughed until we cried.

I could write a book of my adventures with Carol. I feel sad, but as I write all I can think of is so much happy. There was just SO MUCH HAPPY!!!
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