In Memory of




Obituary for Mary F O'Shea

Mary F. O’Shea, 75, passed away peacefully on January 29, 2024 after a short battle with an aggressive form of melanoma.  She was surrounded by her loving family.

Born Mary Therese Farrell on April 23, 1948 in the Bronx, NY to John Gabriel Farrell and Mary (Moran) Farrell, Mary was the third of four children.  She attended St. Barnabas Elementary school, where - as she reminded her children countless times - she won the 8th grade English medal; St. Barnabas High School; and St. Vincent‘s Hospital School of Nursing. While studying at St. Vincent’s, she met the man who would become her husband for 36 years, Gerald O’Shea, who preceded her in death.

Together Gerry and Mary would raise three children, Kieran, Allison, and Elizabeth, and remain in the greater NY area, moving from the Bronx to Yonkers and ultimately settling in Aberdeen, NJ.  Gerry and Mary instilled in their children a strong emphasis on personal responsibility, as well as the importance of education, intellectual curiosity, building deep friendships, empathy for others, and being part of a loving family and community.

Mary was very involved in her children’s lives. She loved opening up her home to her children’s friends and spending time with them, many of whom continued to maintain a relationship with Mary through the years and considered the O'Shea’s house as an 'adopted second home.’ The family has been overwhelmed by the outpouring of warmth, support, visits, and funny stories offered up during Mary’s brief sickness by friends from many phases of her life.

Mary spent much of her career as a registered nurse, working in hospitals, nursing homes, and doctor’s offices for almost 30 years before embarking on a career in medical nutritional sales, where she received numerous awards and recognitions working for Novartis Nutrition and later, Nestle Nutrition. Mary retired in 2013.

Mary had a lifelong love of the beach, travel, spending time with her sister Margie, and maintaining an active social life. She enjoyed time with the friends she made from all stages of her life. After Gerry’s passing, she became a dedicated volunteer with the Spring Lake Women’s Club, where she continued to form deep friendships. She proudly marched down Fifth Avenue every year as part of the NY St. Patrick’s Day Parade with her St. Vincent’s classmates. Over the last several years, Mary enjoyed spending winters in Florida with her companion, Jim Strype, and a core group of friends in an effort to escape the Northeastern cold.

Over the last six years of her life, Mary and Jim enjoyed wonderful trips and time with friends. Mary felt fortunate to find a loving partner in Jim after losing Gerry unexpectedly in 2006.

Mary truly loved the strong relationships she developed over the last two decades with her sons-in-law Tom and JW and daughter-in-law Katie, and was especially close with her seven grandchildren. She could often be found cheering them on from the sidelines of a basketball court, soccer field, pool deck, or golf course, as well as bragging about their athletic and academic achievements to anyone who would listen. Contrary to rumors, none of them actually walked on water. Grandma/Mema will be deeply missed by all of them.

Mary was preceded in death by her parents, her husband Gerry, and older brothers Jack and Richie. She is survived by her children Kieran O’Shea (Katie), Allison Morrison (Tom), and Beth Hobson (JW); grandchildren Charlie, Caitlin, Whitney, Tommy, Tatum, William, and Mollie; and her sister and brother-in-law, Margaret and Michael Rafferty, as well as their three children, Matthew, Colette and Sean, who she loved like her own children. Prior to admission to hospice care, Mary wanted it to be known that she had lived a wonderful life filled with blessings of love, family and friends, and had no regrets.

Mary’s family would like to thank the neurosurgery and oncology staffs at Jersey Shore University Medical Center for their treatment and care over the last six weeks, as well as all of the doctors and nurses who participated in her diagnosis and treatment.

Viewing will be held on Thursday, February 1, 2024 from 3-7 p.m. at O’Brien Funeral Home, 2028 Hwy 35, Wall.  A Mass of Christian Burial will be offered on Friday, February 2nd at 10:00 a.m. at St. Catharine’s RC Church, Spring Lake followed by the entombment at Holmdel Cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made in Mary’s name to a charity of choice, which could include the Woman's Club of Spring Lake by mail at PO Box 328, Spring Lake, NJ 07762 or JSUMC.

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