Raymond Francis Hanbury Jr., Ph.D., 76, of Ocean Township passed away Wednesday, March 23, 2022 at Jersey Shore University Medical Center, Neptune, surrounded by his loving family.

Ray was predeceased by his beloved parents Raymond F. Sr. and Rose Ann (nee Doorley) and his cherished brother Reverend Monsignor Kevin M. Hanbury, Ed.D.

Ray is survived by his devoted wife of 48 years Patricia A. (nee Delaney) Hanbury, his daughter Amy Hanbury of Neptune City and her son Kai Reynolds, his daughter Kimberly Paglino of Spring Lake Heights and husband Joseph, their son Giovanni Paglino, and Joseph’s two children Christopher Paglino and Danielle Moran, Ray’s sister Deborah McGrew and husband Douglas of Omaha, Nebraska and many nieces, nephews and cousins.

Born on March 28th, 1945, in Jersey City, Ray and his family enjoyed many summers at the shore. In 1982 Ray, his wife and two young daughters moved permanently to Spring Lake Heights. Ray was an active member of his community and a committed parishioner of the St. Catharine’s/St. Margaret’s Church family throughout his adult life.

Ray is well regarded both in New Jersey and nationally for his long and prestigious career as a clinical psychologist that spans more than four decades. In addition to a private practice, Ray served as Director of Rehabilitation Psychology at Johnson Rehabilitation Institute in Edison, New Jersey. Dr. Hanbury held a variety of positions at Mount Sinai Hospital and Medical Center in New York. He also held a variety of faculty positions at Mount Sinai, Pace University, Seton Hall University, Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, as well as Rutgers University. Ray also served as a consultant for a number of organizations, most notably with the New Jersey Crisis Intervention Network, the national Disaster Response Network (he was at Ground Zero on 9/11 and also responded to Hurricane Katrina), and numerous police departments in the Jersey Shore area as well as the New Jersey State Police Office of Emergency Management. In addition to his private practice and his work as a police psychologist, Ray was Chief Psychologist at Jersey Shore University Medical Center in Neptune at the time of his passing.

A graduate of Saint Peter's College, he completed his Master’s work at Seton Hall University before finishing his doctorate in psychology at New York University. He was an active member of both the New Jersey Psychological Association as well as the American Psychological Association (APA) and held numerous offices on both organizations, most recently as a member to the APA’s Council of Representatives, the governing body of the APA. 

Ray received numerous honors throughout his career. He received the Golden Bell Leadership Award presented by the Mental Health Association in New Jersey for his response work to 9/11. Ray received a Presidential Citation from the American Psychological Association in addition to being recognized as Psychologist of the Year. He was most recently honored with the prestigious Lifetime Achievement Award from the New Jersey Psychological Association in recognition of his decades of service to the field of psychology and the countless communities and individuals he has tirelessly served.

Ray served as president of the New Jersey Psychological Association and he held the Diplomate from the American Board of Professional Psychology. He contributed to numerous special projects and grants, published numerous chapters and book reviews, as well as giving dozens of presentations and symposia over virtually all of his 40+ year career.

Ray was dedicated to the practice of psychology as his career embodied the act of service to others, a value that he was so passionate about. Yet all who knew him well knew that his greatest joys in life were undoubtedly his family. His beloved and devoted wife Pat, whom he celebrated 48 years of marriage with earlier this month, was his true soul mate, and he prided himself on never missing an anniversary tradition in all of 48 years where he didn’t shower her with bouquets of flowers from Hawaii, where they honeymooned after their wedding. Ray also found unending joy in his children, Amy and Kimberly, son-in-law, Joseph, and his grandsons Kai and Giovanni. He was a regular fixture at his children and grandchildren’s life events, from baptisms to baseball games, dance recitals to graduations, Ray never missed the big or the small when it came to his family.

Ray’s greatest life achievement did not come with a plaque or an award, but rather was seen and felt in the genuine love he shared with his family, as well as the love and care he shared with his friends, colleagues, and those he served. Ray remains forever in our hearts, and our deep sadness at no longer sharing our daily lives with him is assuaged only by the fact that he is now at peace, enjoying all the beauty of resting at last with Our Lord. Until we meet again Ray, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.

Visitation will be held on Sunday, March 27th, from 1:00pm to 6:00pm at the O’Brien Funeral Home, 2028 Hwy 35 at New Bedford Rd., Wall Twp. followed by a Mass of Christian Burial on Monday, March 28, 2022 at 10:30am in St. Margaret’s Church, Corner of 3rd and Ludlow Aves., Spring Lake. To livestream the Mass, please visit https://www.stcatharine-stmargaret.org  Entombment in St. Catharine’s Cemetery, Sea Girt.

In observance of the Catholic period of Lent, no flowers will be accepted or allowed at the Church. In lieu of flowers the family requests donations be made to Tunnel to Towers Foundation, 2361 Hylan Blvd. Staten Island, NY 10306 Memo: Team Shamrock or visit T2T.org

To offer condolences to the Hanbury family please visit www.obrienfuneralhome.com